For the other thing, my question comes with a bunch of implications. Not exactly that she should start stripping post haste, but worse, infinitely worse than that : that she's responsible. For herself, for her own life, for everything. For everything that "happens" to her. That she is what she does, worse fucking nightmare for the US-aspirational 14% in the orclands not being even conceivable.

Meanwhile, the question of the local group of dorks also comes with a bunch of implications, and they're a lot better implications at that. Comforting. Nice. That she isn't what she does. That her real life hasn't started yet. That haymasfuturo. That yes he's incompetent but a) that's ok because they're all equally incompetent anyway so "she couldn't have been expected" to do any better, "by anyone" and, much more importantly, b) that his incompetence actually shields her own laziness. With him she has direct egress into a very comfortable Peggy&Al Bundy matrimonial arrangement, where he'll resent her for his own incompetence as if it wasn't what attracted and kept her around in the first place, while she comfortably rests, for the whole rest of her life. Ever wonder why Peggy is so incredibly loyal to Al ?

Yes he's going to be poor, and bitter, their whole life. But more importantly than the fact that he's never going to have any nice things is the fact that he's never going to wake her up at 5 in the morning because she went to bed without doing dishes, and she won't have to be fucking thankful on hands and knees that this time there's no beating involved nor does the punishment include dungeon time.

Given the choice, most people will opt for what they want over what they need. Which is why it's so important to not give people any choice.